Adoption affects each person who experiences it differently. Here we share with you some comments from people who have gone through the adoption process.

"Promoting adoption is on of the most important things we can do to strengthen American families and give more children what every child deserves – loving parents and a healthy home."

FORMER PRESIDENT CLINTON

Excerpts from Grant Recipients:

“My many thanks goes to your organization for the grant that has helped me with my schooling expense.”
A BIRTH MOTHER

“I think just the idea that there was a group out there who cared enough to help her would give her such a boost in morale that it would further encourage her to keep trying for independence. I know she would appreciate any help you can give her.”
A SOCIAL WORKER ON BEHALF OF A BIRTH MOTHER

“I am requesting grant money to help me reestablish my life. It may seem as though I am running from reality, but in realistic terms I am facing reality. Even though I have completed adoptive placement, it will never be over. I know that this child would benefit more from being in an adoptive family rather than being raised by myself. Mentally, I am ready for school and a new beginning.”
A BIRTH MOTHER

“Thank you profoundly for helping me with my education expenses. My social worker and I have been diligently looking for aid, and your generous grant has brought greatly welcomed relief. Thank you!”
A BIRTH FATHER

“Thank you for the grant for (the birth mother). Your prompt response to the urgent request for financial assistance was very much appreciated. (The birth mother) attends college, and is making good choices for her future. This is all in part because of the support and care of friends such as the Adoption Option who help to make it possible for her to move forward. We appreciate your caring support for birth mothers everywhere. For many, it is the extra boost they need to move forward in a positive direction.”
A SOCIAL WORKER

“I wanted to write and tell you how fabulous the birth mother weekend retreat was. I was able to talk with other birth mothers and find support and encouragement. It was such a wonderful experience. Thank you so much for your grant that made this possible!”
A BIRTH MOTHER

“The Birth Mother is a remarkable, determined young woman. It has been amazing to me to see her self-esteem blossom as she planned and finalized her daughter’s adoption. I think (she) will be successful no matter what the future holds for her. She said to me,‘If I can do this, (the adoption) I can do anything’. I strongly support (her) receiving a grant to help pay for her schooling.”
A SOCIAL WORKER

“After the shock wore off, Adam and I reviewed our limited options with a tremendous amount of discussion, research and soul-searching. Although we are passionately pro-choice, it seemed impossible that we could abort the child we had created. So what to do?…Adoption is an option; it is a choice. I am thankful to have had the freedom to choose--the process itself was enormously empowering, as I believe it can and should be for everyone who chooses it.”
FROM "KRISTINA'S STORY" PUBLISHED IN AOCI REPORTS
ADOPTION OPTION COMMITTEE, INC. 2006


Excerpts from letters and calls to our office:

"To whom it may concern: I'm writing you to inform you of my situation. I'm fifteen years old and I'm pregnant. I feel I'm too young to take care of a child, also if the child were put into a foster home it would be in a safer environment. I'm hoping to find a home that would want to adopt. I think an adoption home would be better for a child at that age. I myself am in Social Services. I have been placed in several foster homes, I would not want that for my child. I'm five months pregnant right now. It's going very well. I'm taking very good care of myself. The doctors told me it's as healthy as can be. I don't smoke I never have. I also have never done any drugs. The baby is due on February 20th. I hope you understand my predicament. All I want is what's best for my child."
SINCERELY, MICHELLE

"I had a year left in high school, and I didn't think I'd be able to give the baby enough time, and I wouldn't have any money for all the things I'd want to give him. I never even considered abortion, but I wasn't comfortable with the idea of giving the baby up and not knowing where it would be. I hadn't even heard of it (open adoption). I didn't know you could choose the parents and meet and talk to them. It's really neat."
TRISH, NOW 18 YEARS OLD

"I feel adoption has made me stronger, more mature and self reliant. It has helped me to deal with other life experiences in a more positive manner."
MARK, 30 YEAR OLD ADOPTED PERSON

"As an adopted child I wish to say thank you to everyone who made it possible for me to be where I am now. When I was 12 days old, I was adopted by two loving people. Had it not been for Children's Home Society, I don't know where I'd be now. Please consider this a thank you from a grateful child."
RACHEL, 11 YEARS OLD

"I thought I could make it, but no one showed up to help me. The stuff she needs and deserves I can never give her. She's still young and I can't even buy her a 75 cent ice cream cone."
SINGLE MOTHER MAKING AN ADOPTION PLAN FOR HER 3-YEAR-OLD DAUGHTER

"Adoption is better than the other alternatives."
JOHN, 28 YEAR OLD ADOPTED PERSON

"We want you to know how much you are loved. If love was the only thing needed to raise and take care of a child, your young birth parents had more than enough for you, but unfortunately at barely 15 and 17, they could not provide anything else."

"We feel God answered our prayers when we met Tom, Maria, and their little daughter Regina. Mike and Joy (the birth parents) needed time to become adults and find out in what direction each of their lives would lead."
BIOLOGICAL GRANDPARENTS TO CHILD PLACED FOR ADOPTION

"The hardest thing I've probably ever done is placing you for adoption. But you deserve a better life than I've had. I want you to know that I love you very much. I also want you to know that I'll never ever forget about you."
BIRTH MOTHER TO HER CHILD

"After the shock wore off, Adam and I reviewed our limited options with a tremendous amount of discussion, research and soul-searching. Although we are passionately pro-choice, it seemed impossible that we could abort the child we had created together. So what to do?. . . Adoption is an option; it is a choice. I am thankful to have had the freedom to choose – the process itself was enormously empowering, as I believe it can and should be for everyone who chooses it."
FROM "KRISTINA'S STORY" PUBLISHED IN AOCI REPORTS

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